The terrorists. The government. The opposition. The corporations. The protestors. The system. The censors. The religions. The neighbor’s horrible music that doesn’t let us sleep: There are many suspects when it comes to identifying enemies of freedom.
Unfortunately, for those of us who are lucky to live in the richer parts of the world, the biggest enemy of freedom can be found right inside of us. He isn’t so hard to get rid of because he’s superior – but because of the powerful tactics he uses: Fear and ignorance.
Fear and ignorance are what keep us in serfdom.
“Lose 10 pounds in 10 weeks – or your money back.”
We all love guarantees.
Freedom doesn’t come with one.
Even in a free society, your neighbor may go nuts and shoot you at some point.1 He may kiss your wife. He may steal your car.
This is why we long for guarantees. As long as our fear controls us, we won’t accept anything less.
- “Hmm, I’m in this job and it sucks. But who guarantees me that I’ll find anything better if I quit?”
- “All right, I’ll meditate with you, but only if you guarantee me that I’ll walk away enlightened.”
- “I’ll only marry you if you guarantee me eternal love and happiness.”
The truth is, there are no guarantees. We may enjoy the perfect life today and have a grand piano fall on our heads tomorrow. The universe can be ironic at times.
Ignorance and Its Discontents
To be sure, fear is only one part of the problem. It’s not that we simply have to get rid of our fears and everything will be fine.
Because it’s not just that we’re unable to make a concrete plan for traveling the world or asking that awesome girl out. Or even that we’re unable to execute that plan once we have it.
It’s that we don’t even think it’s possible!
It’s not that we consciously decide against doing interesting things in our lives. It’s that we’re not even aware of all the great things we could do!
These, then, are the enemies: Fear and ignorance. And if I had to define freedom, I would say that freedom is what we get once we overcome our ignorance and fear. In this sense, freedom is a process, not a status quo. This also means that it’s something that we should never take for granted.
Maybe it’s no wonder that German, supposed to be the language of poets and thinkers, doesn’t have an equivalent for one of the most beautiful English words. It’s a word that goes beyond the stereotypical German desire to plan and control, to completely understand and order the world we live in.
That word is serendipity.2
Serendipity means not knowing what we’re looking for. And still being open to find it. It means unlocking our natural gift to make fortunate and totally unexpected discoveries in our daily life. And it’s an antidote to a life without freedom, because it helps us to overcome our fear and ignorance.
I know this may sound weird to many. And still, there’s a serendipitous notion to freedom: It’s something anybody can experience, but that’s somehow still beyond our control. If you think that’s bullshit, remember the last time you were in love. The last time you smelled fresh coffee while observing a sunrise. The last time you met an old friend on your way home and ended up talking until 3am. Do you think these moments can be forced?
Serendipity itself can be easily ignored. It’ll then be mistaken for simple chance or for divine intervention – merely confirming our beliefs. But serendipity can take us further: It lowers our ignorance because it leads us to unexpected discoveries. It also reduces our fear: We simply don’t expect anything, but remain open to get precisely what we need.
In this sense, embracing serendipity means embracing freedom.
Join the Freedom Fighters: Flâneurs, Idlers, and other Troublemakers
Evgeny Morozov recently wrote about the “death of the cyberflâneur“. He was worried about how the modern web could lead to a “tyranny of the social”, showing us only the content that performs well with the average audience, while skipping anything weird and eclectic. If this happened, serendipitous findings would become a rarity. Freedom would be reduced.
The flâneur is a classical figure embracing serendipitous freedom: Walking on the streets of Paris until he gets lost, he will encounter surprising and unexpected freedoms – just like his modern digital sibling, the cyberflâneur.
How about the other misfits who enjoy this kind of freedom? Think of the idler who seizes a day and relaxes at the beach. He will discover new thoughts and ideas that could easily change the direction of his life.
Think of the raver who meets friends and strangers at unplanned techno parties. He will feel this freedom at 180bpm, deep inside of him.
The painter who paints just to paint;
the writer who writes just to write;
the dancer who dances just to dance: They all will experience freedom in what they do, no matter if they’re dilettantes or professionals.
Calmness and community, festivity and friendship, creativity and creation are all manifestations of freedom. And they all can be found in serendipitous ways, because they are somehow beyond our control. While they can be experienced by anyone, they cannot be forced: We can trust in finding friends, but we won’t be able to decide about their actions. We can prepare for celebrations, but we rely on serendipity to make the party great.
What You Can Do
If you’d like to explore a new side of freedom, give yourself the chance to have some serendipitous encounters:
- Be late. Or be early. Put your alarm clock at a different time than you’re used to, and enjoy the pleasure of a slow breakfast. Or the adrenaline of a quick cold shower and a rush to your meeting.
- Take a different route to work. And a different means of transport. Leave your car at home. Skip the subway. Instead, take the bike or walk, or ask a colleague to take you.
- Seize a day. Bribe your doctor with a chocolate cake or tell your employers that the husband of your cousin’s sister-in-law has just passed away and you need to attend the funeral. Or be honest and tell your boss that he owes you this Monday and you won’t show up.
- Get on the same train that you always take. But don’t get off at your usual station. Instead, drive all the way to the end of line. Walk around there for at least one hour and talk to three strangers.
- Invite one of the strangers on a drink. Or to ride the carrousel with you. To climb on a mountain. Document your adventure with an old camera and send him the undeveloped film as a memory.
- Buy a different newspaper. Subscribe to 10 quality blogs that are written to cater an audience you are opposed to. Visit a temple of another religion. Try to understand the point Richard Dawkins makes. Then, read the Quran or the Bible and try to understand the point the prophets make.
- Walk with flowers. Go on a monthly adventure. Do impossible things. Join the 1% club. This is your life, so if you want freedom, dare to take it. And dare to make it.
- Ultimately, freedom isn’t something to be taken for granted. Nor is it independent of our environment. While freedom starts in the mind, too many people are still living in conditions that don’t allow for freedom on the outside. If you’re better off, use the power you have to build a world of freedom and mutual respect: Support freedom fighters everywhere, get engaged in your community, help the people you meet during your day – be they friends or foes, colleagues or family members, casual acquaintances or total strangers. Smiles, food, political, practical, moral and financial support are all things that can contribute to bring freedom to the world.
This post was part of a series about defining freedom, organized by Mike Routen. Find the other post in the series here:
- Make Freedom Your Reality by Mike Routen on Route To Freedom
- How Free Do You Think You Really Are? (Part 1) by Paige Burkes on Simple Mindfulness
- Simple Steps To Create More Freedom For Yourself (Part 2) by Paige Burkes on Simple Mindfulness
- In Commitment We Find Freedom by Jenny Blake at Life After College
- Finding Your Freedom In Everyday Life by Cara Stein at 17,000 Days
- Go Do Something So Freaking Awesome… by Doug Grootveld at Wellness Renegade
- What Does Freedom Mean To You? by Sean Ogle at Location 180
P.S. “Then there is the most dangerous risk of all– the risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later.” — Randy Komisar, The Monk and the Riddle (A serendipitous encounter, seen here!)
You’ve definitely boiled it down to the essentials: fear and ignorance. Awesome! And sometimes we restrict our own freedom due to fear of appearing ignorant – staying in our small comfort zone in ordet to not look stupid.
Some of the absolutely best times of my life were when I threw all the plans out the window and flowed on the river of serendipity. And this comes from an accountant who usually lives life according to all kinds of plans and goals. I’ve seen the light of true inner freedom and I’m not going back.
I love what you’re doing here, Fabian! I hope you continue to inspire many others for a long, long time!
Thanks so much, Paige! Your words are even more encouraging as they come from an experienced accountant! On the one hand, it’s great to see that some serendipity fits your lifestyle. On the other, my own fear of and ignorance about your profession are quite big, to be honest – I’ll give my best to overcome them! ;)
What a great view on freedom. Those rare serendipitous moments are so wonderful when we recognize them.
I know I have to fight off fear and ignorance more often than I should, but it is always worth it when I do.
Mike, I think we *all* have to fight them constantly. Thankfully, this can happen in playful and entertaining ways, so it’s probably not all that bad! Thanks for your comment and for organizing this Round Robin! :)
Fabian, your thoughts and reference to the cyberflaneur made me think about and appreciate your style of writing and how you don´t just take the easy path when writing but pursue ideas that need a little more digestion! Thanks for keeping it interesting and keeping the cyberflaneur alive! Your hard work at writing always shows.
Besides that thanks for the Sunday afternoon stimulation of the mind and heart!
Thanks a lot, my friend! Actually, this post itself was the result of some serendipitous surfing, thinking and meandering. And, as you say, this is often the case: Serendipitous encounters fuel my creativity more than anything else, and they also provide me with a good amount of freedom experiences!
Have a great week, Ben!
Great article and ideas, Fabian!!
I think this is going to be a long comment so brace yourself ;)
You posted some nice experiments on freedom. Especially loved the idea to invite strangers out and document with pictures and send them the undeveloped roll of film as a memory. And the one about the train and taking a different stop… It reminds me of the serendipitous, spontaneous conversations I sometimes had with people on the metro.. One time, in my earlier more stylish years, I attracted a guy and he randomly invited me to get off at his stop, where we then walked around a trail area I didn’t even knew existed. I found him fascinating and cute and enjoyed the company.. He eventually wanted to date me, as was expected, but I couldn’t meet him halfway with my spontaneity/serendipity and rejected him! Out of, yes, fear and ignorance.
Saw a lovely romantic drama (perfect for Valentines day) called The Vow today which might also relate. :)
Haha, thanks for sharing this story, Janet! Love to hear about other people’s experiences, and this was a great fit!
As I said to Mike, we probably all know this fear and ignorance… that’s why living in freedom is a constant process! And you’re certainly someone who knows how to keep this process going… Thanks for that and the inspiration you are!
Wow, nice article! I agree with you here, there’s fear and ignorance in every corner of your life. It’s amazing how television and propaganda fills you with that showing you every single minute of your life that you need stuff to improve your life or appearance, that you aren’t good enough.
I think this is one of the most important steps to start pursuing freedom, to get rid of the evils of the external pressure that society and media tries to spit at us. Once you got rid of that, you’ll need less and less money to live your life and since money is at the top of the list of ways of modern slavery today, you’ll start to see the light in the end of the tunnel.
Cristhyano, what you’re saying is crucial. Getting rid of this pressure entirely is probably impossible (unless you become a hermit), but – thankfully – there are some good ways too “off-market yourself” and seeing the light at the end of the tunnel that you mention! :)
Serendipity is my favorite word/concept/subject/feeling/etc. In your words Fabian, I am a travelflâneur. I wrote multiple blog posts about how cultivating serendipity can improve even your travel experience.
While I travel, I actively search for new and unexpected discoveries: walk out of your hotel, turn right and start walking. I once called myself a Serendipity Hunter, inspired by Jorge Luis Borges’ Garden of Forking paths.
This year we will cultivate it further by taking 6 weeks of slow travel in India and Thailand with our kids. How am I supposed to travel without that passion for serendipity? The unexpected joy, when the impossible turns into reality.
The idea of the (travel)flâneur inspires me!
Great post! I’ll make sure to keep on following your journey.
Emiel, I think we have the same travel style! If we want to see the world, this is really the best we can do! I wish more people would get that and relax a bit more instead of freaking out about all the “sightseeing” whenever they get to a new place. The real wonders of travel generally result from serendipity, indeed! :)
I love this post. Thank you for these tips.
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